Unfortunately (or is it fortunately?), yes-wedding nightmares are completely normal and can come with the territory. When doing wedding planning I dreamed, had nightmares, and woke up thinking about weddings. A wedding does that, it takes over like a beautiful toddler that needs constant attention or will cause mass destruction and chaos!
How can you soothe the tension? Remember this day is to be a joyous occasion, but it is just the beginning of a wonderful life together. You will share many more special moments and celebrations throughout life. Everyone does have an opinion, and we try to work with everyone, but someone has to make the final decision and it is you!
I also prescribe:
- Date night with your Fiancé at least once a month with at least a 2 hour wedding conversation free zone (so you can remember why you are doing this to start with!)
- A To Do List: preferably one that you keep by the bed so you can list out anything on your mind before you go to sleep, and then I would suggest doing some reading (perhaps your daily bible reading!) non wedding related. This should help to soothe the nightmares and help you to sleep soundly.
- Honeymoon planning
- Flowers for your house and for your bedroom. I always find that a nice bouquet of flowers (picked or purchased) really makes things feel wonderful.
- Decision-making: The more decisions you make and stick to the better you will feel! Make the decision, move on, and before you know it the day will be here.
And don’t forget that most often it is the unplanned moments and unexpected that people remember most. I planned my wedding down to the detail and what to people remember – that the wind picked up my veil in the loveliest way (and then I took it off halfway down the aisle) and the coffee cart my mother in law paid for. Don’t worry it is all going to work out and it will be amazing!!